Sarah Schulmann-Palmer

Childhood Emotional Neglect and Confidence Coaching

Strategies to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood and Building Confidence

Put the pain of your childhood behind you – become empowered and live with confidence.

My Story

I’m Sarah, a self-taught life coach and experienced in personal growth. I grew up in traumatic circumstances as a young child and teenager. I learned how to observe and understand the world around me, which enabled me to gain an insight into how to reverse the impact of childhood emotional neglect as an adult.

My mission is to help others who have gone through similar situations by teaching them skills in resilience, motivation and self-care. Through my online course I offer resources, advice and real-life examples from my own experiences which will help you gain the courage and  strength you need to live your best life. With my support, you can turn your pain into power.

My Values & Beliefs

Everyone should feel free and confident speaking about their childhood.

Everyone should be able to talk freely and with confidence about their childhood, without feeling any shame or guilt. A child is not responsible for his/her own childhood.

We all want to have the best relationships we can have.

Everyone has a need for love and connection. We can all learn to love ourselves, gain confidence in expressing our feelings, know our wishes and desires and set healthy boundaries in our relationships.  

Everyone can build up resilience to stress and struggle

We can all learn to be our own cheerleader and motivate ourselves, show determination and bounce back from rejection, failure and criticism.

My Approach

It is important to accept yourself just as you are, but also to accept your childhood and what happened to you, without feeling embarrassed, ashamed or guilty about it. As a child we are not responsible for how we grow up, or for the adults looking after us. Building up confidence and self-belief requires us to get to know ourselves better. By that I mean, we need to better understand our own feelings and what triggers these feelings. Like “Why did I feel so upset yesterday by something someone said to me?” “Why did this comment make me feel so sad? Why did I react the way I did?” Very often the answers to why we feel what we feel, lies in our childhood, a traumatic childhood leaves us with an empty feeling inside, an empty gap, and a feeling of not belonging. Confidence building starts with changing our self-talk and lowering the sound level of our inner critic. Replace the negative self-talk with positive thoughts about yourself, praise yourself. Like and love yourself. Befriend yourself.  As we know more about our feelings, our wishes and desires, the next step is to learn to express our feelings with clarity, using our calm voices and putting names on our feelings. To be able to clearly express and name your feelings is a powerful tool that will enable you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships. Strong self-motivation and determination to achieve your goals will help you grow your resilience and bounce back more easily from rejection, failure and criticism.  

Overcoming childhood trauma is also about looking after yourself and feeling good about yourself, your body and your mind. Choosing a healthy diet and regular exercise, mild exercise like going for a  walk every day,  connecting with other people and learning new skills or taking up a new hobby will make us all feel good about ourselves. That is a good starting point for recovering from a traumatic childhood.

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Wellbeing – The Art of Being Well

How do we reach that delicious inner flow state when we feel that “all is well in my world”?

Many studies have shown that meditation helps – it calms the nervous system and can smooth out the negative emotions that cause you stress. Just taking a few deep breaths, for instance inhaling for 4 counts, holding for 4 counts and exhaling for 4 counts, will instantly make you feel calmer. Taking walks in nature, the beauty of nature makes us feel good and peaceful within ourselves. Putting a smile on your face and smiling at people you meet (it will surprise how many people smile back at you), playing with a child, stroking an animal, watching the sunrise or sunset.  These are all things that make us just feel good and relax our minds for a while; perhaps long enough for us to see a stressful situation through another lens. Having something to look forward to every day, it can be small things like the first delicious cup of coffee or tea in the morning, using that favourite body lotion you just bought, listening to your favourite music or reading a book you really enjoy – these are just a few examples of things we can do to change our moods and relax a bit more in our daily lives. Appreciate the little things in your daily life. 

Don’t Wait Any Longer. Start Forging Your Own Path Today!

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