Sarah Schulmann-Palmer
Childhood Emotional Neglect and Confidence CoachingStrategies to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood and Building Confidence
Put the pain of your childhood behind you – become empowered and live with confidence.
My Story
I’m Sarah, a self-taught life coach and experienced in personal growth. I grew up in traumatic circumstances as a young child and teenager. I learned how to observe and understand the world around me, which enabled me to gain an insight into how to reverse the impact of childhood emotional neglect as an adult.
My mission is to help others who have gone through similar situations by teaching them skills in resilience, motivation and self-care. Through my online course I offer resources, advice and real-life examples from my own experiences which will help you gain the courage and strength you need to live your best life. With my support, you can turn your pain into power.
My Values & Beliefs
Everyone should feel free and confident speaking about their childhood.
Everyone should be able to talk freely and with confidence about their childhood, without feeling any shame or guilt. A child is not responsible for his/her own childhood.
We all want to have the best relationships we can have.
Everyone has a need for love and connection. We can all learn to love ourselves, gain confidence in expressing our feelings, know our wishes and desires and set healthy boundaries in our relationships.
Everyone can build up resilience to stress and struggle
We can all learn to be our own cheerleader and motivate ourselves, show determination and bounce back from rejection, failure and criticism.
My Approach
It is important to accept yourself just as you are, but also to accept your childhood and what happened to you, without feeling embarrassed, ashamed or guilty about it. As a child we are not responsible for how we grow up, or for the adults looking after us. Building up confidence and self-belief requires us to get to know ourselves better. By that I mean, we need to better understand our own feelings and what triggers these feelings. Like “Why did I feel so upset yesterday by something someone said to me?” “Why did this comment make me feel so sad? Why did I react the way I did?” Very often the answers to why we feel what we feel, lies in our childhood, a traumatic childhood leaves us with an empty feeling inside, an empty gap, and a feeling of not belonging. Confidence building starts with changing our self-talk and lowering the sound level of our inner critic. Replace the negative self-talk with positive thoughts about yourself, praise yourself. Like and love yourself. Befriend yourself. As we know more about our feelings, our wishes and desires, the next step is to learn to express our feelings with clarity, using our calm voices and putting names on our feelings. To be able to clearly express and name your feelings is a powerful tool that will enable you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships. Strong self-motivation and determination to achieve your goals will help you grow your resilience and bounce back more easily from rejection, failure and criticism.
Overcoming childhood trauma is also about looking after yourself and feeling good about yourself, your body and your mind. Choosing a healthy diet and regular exercise, mild exercise like going for a walk every day, connecting with other people and learning new skills or taking up a new hobby will make us all feel good about ourselves. That is a good starting point for recovering from a traumatic childhood.
Featured Articles
Articles
Self-care is not a selfish act. Looking and feeling your best is an important way of nurturing your body, soul and mind.
- The effect of childhood trauma shows up when you least expect it – for instance, in an Italian lesson.
- Remembering a parent who passed away when you were a child, can be challenging – you don’t remember the voice. Was it just a dream?
- How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime. Ted Talk, Nadine Burke Harris, YouTube video. YouTube
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